| Age is just a number. Your driver's license might say | | | | for everyone involved. It's even possible that you could |
| that you're over fifty but you still have the energy and | | | | lose the relationship because of this small lie because |
| focus you did in your twenties. Unfortunately, when | | | | the trust is broken. These are the things you have to |
| someone asks you how old you are they usually don't | | | | weigh before deciding if you are going to start fibbing |
| care about how old you feel. Ageism runs throughout | | | | about how old you are. If you do decide that it is worth |
| society and it can be hard to overcome the | | | | the risks then you should be realistic in your deception. |
| stereotypes of what someone your age is expected | | | | Pretending to be a year or two younger is one thing |
| to look and act like. It is enough to make a mature | | | | but when you start taking off decades it looks |
| single person start to consider shaving a few years | | | | ridiculous. Also, it is much harder to be forgiven for a |
| off of their age. In a perfect world potential dates | | | | couple years then five or ten of them. And just |
| would be able to get the time to know you and your | | | | because you are altering your age doesn't mean that |
| personality before deciding if they want to start a | | | | you should start trying to equally adjust the ages of |
| relationship or not. But usually people don't have the | | | | everyone around you. Trying to pretend that your |
| time to really get to know someone so instead they | | | | children and grandchildren are also younger starts to |
| make decisions based on arbitrary things like age. It's | | | | get very complicated, not to mention that while you |
| possible that there is a perfect match for you out | | | | have the right to lie about yourself you don't have the |
| there who hasn't met you yet because they are one | | | | right to do the same for somebody else. Finally, you |
| or two years out of their ideal age range. It can be | | | | need to have an exit plan. Set a point in your mind |
| especially hard for people using Internet dating sites | | | | early in the relationship, one the sixth or eighth date for |
| where users are able to sort perspective matches by | | | | example, when you are going to come clean. Give |
| age. So with one click of a button a fun and feisty | | | | them just enough time to get to know how vivacious |
| sixty-one year old could be left out even though she | | | | and youthful you are so that they can see that you |
| may look and act younger then the fifty-nine year old | | | | are not defined by your age. But the longer you wait |
| that makes the cut. On the other hand it is never a | | | | to tell the truth the harder it is going to be. Of course |
| good idea to begin a relationship with deception. At | | | | the bigger question is if you really want to be involved |
| some point your real age is going to come out, | | | | with someone who considers youth to be a defining |
| probably on your next birthday, and then you need to | | | | factor? Don't let society pressure you into changing |
| be able to explain your motives and rational. I | | | | who you are in an effort to fit in. You age is something |
| remember a story of a couple who were moving in | | | | you should be proud of because is a symbol of your |
| together to an apartment and had to fill out forms for | | | | experience and maturity. Even if you do choose to fib |
| a background check. When the apartment manager | | | | about your age to try and meet somebody don't let |
| called back to alert them that the information she | | | | the lie consume you to the point that you feel |
| supplied came back as fraudulent she had to very | | | | embarrassed by the truth. Growing old isn't easy, but it |
| quickly confess the truth and it was very embarrassing | | | | is better then the alternative. |